While I was studying and sleeping away nearly any free time I had in the past little while I stumbled upon this neat little website. This website is a phobia guide! It was very interesting to go through the different phobias. There were some that made me laugh and others that made me terribly sad to think that there are people out there that are actually afflicted with these phobias. This is when I began to think about why are people afraid of things? How does this affect their lives? and what am I afraid of?
On this list of phobias there were some very interesting ones, such as cacophobia which is the fear of ugliness. Is this being scared of being ugly, or seeing someone who is ugly? There were also some that I could not warp my head around, such as Geliophobia; the fear of laughing. How can you be sacred of laughing? It is perhaps the most wonderful thing in the world; not only is it the best medicine, it is also the best ab workout! Could it be that some people are scared to let themselves be happy? Is it a fear that once things begin to come together that they will suddenly come crashing down. That is the point where I began to think "What am I scared of?"
I know there are some things I am terrified of such as drowning, and being set on fire, being slowly crushed under a giant pile trees and rocks after a heat seeking missile blew up my house....you know the usual. But really, what was I scared of? That is when I found Monophobia, the fear of being alone. Now I didn't know if it meant being alone in a room or being alone for the rest of your life in the sense that you never find a significant other to spend it with. I am not afraid being alone, in fact there are some days that I rather enjoy being a social hermit, but the thought of not sharing my life with someone special really upset me. I think of my parents and see their life together, (which will be 25 years in June) and I think of how lucky they are and how lucky I am. I want to be able to find someone that I can build a home with and make dinner with and steal the remote from when my favourite shows are on.
I then got to thinking of what breaks up some relationships. Is it the fear of being alone that makes one very clingy? Is it the one person's fear of not being alone, that makes the other fear commitment? But why is it that the one who fears commitment leaves the other one yet enters a long term relationship not even 2 months later? Did something magically change within that month and a bit? This is what lead me to another thought, what cures a fear?
Is it the exposure to what you fear that cures it, or is it growth over time that allows you to conquer it? I think almost everyone has seen those episodes of Maurry where he makes people face their phobias such as Coulrophobia (fear of clowns) and Lachanophobia (fear of vegetables). But really who is scared of carrots and peas? Really? Also, do those people really et over their fears? How does maturing allow you to get over your fears? Does it make you realize that you are being completely unrealistic? How does one over come the fear of commitment? Is it seeing past relationships fail and it suddenly turns into the fear of being alone? Or is it just finding that certain someone that makes you fear being without them?
Lessons Learned
-Don't be scared to show someone that you care
-Learn to embrace your fears and over come them, what ever they may be
-Get your recommended daily servings of vegetables
- http://www.phobiaguide.com/
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